As humans we have many flaws, today I am going to share my thoughts on one of them with you.
We have feelings, as we should, however we need to realise that these feelings come from emotions, and we almost always use words to create these emotions.
We allow ourselves to get angry or happy by what others say to us or about us. Therefore, we need to be aware about the words that we use.
Many times people will say something to us about ourselves that we do not actually agree with. Should we allow ourselves to be sucked down a dark hole into a state or anger or worse depression? NO!
We need to begin to understand that just like them we are entitled to our feelings, beliefs and thoughts. If we could just learn to control, then and create that moment where our brain will be activated before our mouth.
What you say to yourself has the greatest impact of all on your life, so be aware of what you’re telling yourself.
Next week I will elaborate more on this and give you a tool that will help you begin to talk more positively both to yourself and others.
To continue
Because what we say to ourselves has such a huge impact on our lives we need to become more aware.
We have been taught since we were babies to have emotions and the main way that we express our emotions is through words, words are therefore the tools we use and we need to take more responsibility with them.
It is imperative that we begin to form a new habit, one of Positive Self Talk.
So here is a challenge I have for each and every one of you.
I want you to take 3 minutes every day for the next 7 days to do the following:
I want you to please stand in front of a mirror, preferably one that’s full length, but stand there naked. This is so that you have "nothing to hide behind" and I want you to scan your body from the top most hair of your head all the way, all the way down to your toes and just appreciate it for being your body.
Just take a few seconds to do this.
Then I would like you to please focus on a part of your body that you don't like. (if you have more than one part you don't like choose one and change it the next day), focus on that part of your body and tell "it" how much you love it while acknowledging its fault.
Here is an example: If you are overweight you may use this, "stomach; you are big and fat, you wobble a lot; but i love you because you are a part of me"
Go on give it a try.
Now try it again but from now on when you say it say it with passion!
As I write this I wonder if you realise how important a person you are?
One of the problems is that we focus far too much attention on our failures and not our successes.
It is time, right here and now to realise that we are human and therefore likely to make mistakes, the big thing is what we tell ourselves when we do.
All those negative labels that we have given ourselves or that others have given us that we "embraced" come rushing back. I want you to take a few minutes later today to try doing the following.
1. Sit or lie down and relax yourself with a few deep breaths.
2. Close your eyes and imagine a chalkboard.
3. Written on the board in large letters is your name and all around your name words are written, negative words that apparently describe you.
4. Some may be true, some may not, but they are all negative and all about you.
5. Read them all to yourself.
6. Now picture yourself cleaning the board , and as each negative word is erased, so to is that negative label that WAS attached to your name.
Go on give it a bash.
I will share the next step next week.
Stay strong, stay focus,
As humans we have many flaws, today I am going to share my thoughts on one of them with you.
We have feelings, as we should, however we need to realise that these feelings come from emotions, and we almost always use words to create these emotions.
We allow ourselves to get angry or happy by what others say to us or about us. Therefore, we need to be aware about the words that we use.
Many times people will say something to us about ourselves that we do not actually agree with. Should we allow ourselves to be sucked down a dark hole into a state or anger or worse depression? NO!
We need to begin to understand that just like them we are entitled to our feelings, beliefs and thoughts. If we could just learn to control them and create that moment where our brain will be activated before our mouth.
What you say to yourself has the greatest impact of all on your life, so be aware of what you’re telling yourself.
Next week I will elaborate more on this and give you a tool that will help you begin to talk more positively both to yourself and others.
So where does it start?
It starts with ourselves, with the choice to choose!
What do I mean by that?
We as humans have been conditioned since birth to associate words with feelings, and not just the words themselves but how they are said.
How often as a child were you reprimanded by your parents for being rude? And all you thought was "but I didn't say f@#K?" To which your parent reminded you that "It's not what you said, but how you said it"
For a moment I want you to think of the 3 magic words "I love you". Ask yourself how it makes you feel when it is said to you by your child; by your parent; by that someone special in your life; by someone whom you dislike; by a relative stranger; by a drunk who just bumped into you. That's 6 different scenarios where the same statement is made, yet it can produce in you 6 different emotional reactions can it not?
We need to realise that it is our choice and within our power which emotion we choose to wear at each of these.
When we can take control of our emotions instead of allowing "that person" to make me mad! we become our own emotional puppet masters, we take back control of our emotions!
So begin your journey of emotional empowerment by taking control back.
Until next week, just ask yourself "Who is my puppet master? What can i do for it to become me?"
In the mean while stay strong, stay focus,
Here is to hoping that you have discovered the power within, that will allow you to be your own emotional puppet master that we discussed in last weeks A Note from Jason.
Before any of us came out of our mother’s wombs we already had this one little thing inside ourselves. Some people will call it their piece of God, others may call it their intuition, I often refer to it as my "inner wisdom", regardless of the name that you choose to call it, we all need to realise the following:
It has but one task, and that task is to help us be the best we can be at whatever we set our minds to.
So if we choose to focus on the negative, our inner wisdom (which does have a programming fault and struggles to process negatives, and does what it assumes we want.) will give us exactly that. So stop telling yourself what you don't want and rather what you do want.
We all need to know that we are going to make mistakes in our life and that’s ok.
It is because of the negative things we have in our life that we are able to appreciate the positive ones even more.
So during this week I want you to know that your inner wisdom is right there with you, helping and guiding - but only in the direction you choose to ask it, so ask clearly.
Know you are an ingenious survivor and celebrate each bit of positivity in your life because you can.
Next week we will be starting on a different subject, so look out for the next Note.
In the mean while stay strong, stay focus,
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