How can it be that in 2015 the biggest killer of humans is a self-inflicting illness?!
More people than ever are dying from stress and stress related problems.
Why is it so?
Well one of the problems is that we wear our stress on our sleeve, almost - NO exactly, like a badge of honour.
We need to learn more self-respect and self-worth so that we can re-empower ourselves, beginning to once again rule our own lives instead of allowing outside factors to lead us.
Over the next month I will be sharing some practical tools that when implemented will make a positive change to your stress levels.
The first thing that you need to do is to acknowledge your stress, it’s impossible to fix something that you don't admit is broken.
Between now and next time, take stock of your life, asking yourself "what drives me to push myself as hard as I do?"
Over the next few days become more self-aware and more self-control will follow.
Till next time;
Stay strong, stay focused
Four of the most commonly known archetypes are Emperor; Magician; Warrior and Lover.
Each of them has a positive and a negative side, a side for good and a side for bad.
The Emperor is all about what is just and right.
The Magician is also known as the healer and is there to help with making changes in lives.
The Warrior is where the flight and flight aspect of our personality resides.
The Lover is all about emotions (good and bad ones)
We all have these and others residing within ourselves.
When we are confronted with a particular situation different ones will "flare up" and become the more dominant for that point in time.
It is when we allow ourselves to become aware of why we are reacting in a particular manner that we can actually take back control of ourselves.
So why not choose to do just that, become more self-aware.
Self-awareness is the first step to empowering yourself, and that is something we should all be striving for.
Over the next few days become more self-aware and more self-control will follow.
Till next time;
Stay strong, stay focused,
The way we view the world will change according the mind set we have at the time.
Have you noticed that your coping levels increase dramatically when you’re in a good mood?
Carl Jung (1875-1961) spent many years understanding and developing his theory of Archetypes.
What are archetypes you may wonder? Well wonder no more!
They are based on different personalities that have each got a different dominating trait.
This has nothing to do with Multiple Personality Disorder, we all have many within ourselves, but rather these archetypes help us understand our coping mechanisms.
The word archetypes is of Greek origin and means "Old Pattern or Model".
Jung defined what he termed the 12 most common. Each has its own set of values and personality traits. They are then put into one of 3 categories being Ego, Soul and Self (4 in each)
Next week we will begin to look at what they are and how you can easily recognise them within yourself.
One of the best ways of empowering yourself is through knowledge of self. So don't be afraid to look within.
Till next time;
Stay strong, stay focused,
In the last Note from Jason Sandler, I shared the story of Bob having to choose between heaven and hell.
Thanks so much to all of you who did email me your ideas around what his choice was and why he chose the one he chose, and what the difference between them actually was. Not one of you was wrong! Well done.
Here is one aspect/consideration I would love each of you to think about.
The only true difference between the two was the attitude of the people there! As simple as that.
In hell they were all for themselves, in heaven they worked together, in heaven even with those long spoons they ate, because they fed each other.
This all begs the question "what about you?"
Do you live/work in heaven or hell?
Zig Ziegler said "your altitude is dependent on your attitude"
So maybe if you chose to embrace a more positive attitude to your life and those around you, you could be living in a heaven like environment right now.
Yes, I know it's someone else who made us angry, who upsets us, who messes everything up. Or is it?
Don't allow others to be your emotional "puppet masters"
It only takes YOU to start the ball of positive change rolling.
"But I'm only one person" I hear you cry out. The truth is it only has to start with one person. It was one person’s attitude that helped make South Africa's transition a peaceful one. (Mandela), It was one person who brought the world to its knees (Hitler).
It just takes that one who truly believes.
So why not try, try to be more positive than before, be the catalyst of positive change in your work and home environment.
Till next time;
Stay strong, stay focused,
When you hear someone talking about the difference between heaven and hell most people think of a joke, today I'm going to tell you a story.
"Once upon a time a man named Bob died and arrived at the pearly gates. St Peter wasn't sure where to send him, so he told Bob he could choose between heaven and hell.
Bob said he wanted to see what both were like before he made his decision. So off he went to see what hell looked like.
Walking into hell he saw that he was in a huge room, a massive fire in the middle and on top of the fire a humungous pot with stew cooking in it. The smell of the food was both amazing and overwhelming. How-ever all the people there looked like they were starving and grumpy. As Bob looked at the people he noticed that they all had metal spoons in their hands, spoons that were 2 meters (6 1/2 feet) long with a small wooden handle. Every time they scooped some food the spoon went red hot and so they had to hold on the handle to avoid burning themselves, when they tried to eat the food fell onto the dusty floor.
After seeing this Bob went to look at heaven.
At 1st he was a little confused, it looked identical, even the smell from the pot on top of the fire had the same delicious smell coming from it.
Bob thought that this was a trick until...
He noticed that the people here looked well fed and seemed happy and content and well fed? Even though they had the identical obstacles that the people in hell had with those huge spoons?
Bob understood and went back to St Peter to tell him he had made his mind up as to where he wanted to go.He told St Peter that he wanted to go to..."
And this is where I end this story for now.
Over this week I would love it if you thought about this story, thought where would Bob choose to go, what was the actual difference between heaven and hell (don't say in heaven they were happy, rather why were they happy) Please email me your thoughts and next week I will unpack it for you.
Till next time;
Stay strong, stay focused,
In the last Note from Jason Sandler, I shared the story of Bob having to choose between heaven and hell.
Thanks so much to all of you who did email me your ideas around what his choice was and why he chose the one he chose, and what the difference between them actually was. Not one of you was wrong! Well done.
Here is one aspect/consideration I would love each of you to think about.
The only true difference between the two was the attitude of the people there! As simple as that.
In hell they were all for themselves, in heaven they worked together, (for those who didn't read the last one click follow to read it now), in heaven even with those long spoons they ate, because they fed each other.
This all begs the question "what about you?"
Do you live/work in heaven or hell?
Zig Ziegler said "your altitude is dependent on your attitude"
So maybe if you chose to embrace a more positive attitude to your life and those around you you could be living in a heaven like environment right now.
Yes, I know it's someone else who made us angry, who upsets us, who messes everything up. Or is it?
Don't allow others to be your emotional "puppet masters"
It only takes YOU to start the ball of positive change rolling.
"But I'm only one person" I hear you cry out. The truth is it only has to start with one person. It was one person’s attitude that helped make South Africa's transition a peaceful one. (Mandela), It was one person who brought the world to its knees (Hitler).
It just takes that one who truly believes.
So why not try, try to be more positive than before, be the catalyst of positive change in your work and home environment.
Till next time;
Stay strong, stay focused,
Have you been working on the 2 pillars I shared with you last week?
What changes have you begun to make with regards to both your health and family?
Today I want to define the other 3 pillars for you.
Money is always a big issue in people’s lives is it not?
So when we look at finance it is very important to know that even though we all would like more money, and there's nothing wrong with that, more money does not fix money issues. Rather when we look at finances it is all about learning to work with the finances we have, to plan and live within these financial constraints.
Closely following money is career. When I refer to the 5 Pillars, career is not limited to our job, rather everything that we do to fill our days and our time. A retired person has hobbies, these hobbies can be defined in this context as their career.
Finally we look at spirituality, please don't think of it as religion. Religion is and can be a part of spirituality however it is more than that. I like to define spirituality as anything that a person feels helps feed their soul. So for some it could be religion, for other going out into nature and for some both of these or something completely different.
The idea of the concept of the 5 Pillars is to create a life where you wake up feeling positive and looking forward to your day ahead, something we can all achieve when, not if, we choose.
Next week I shall begin to pull the 5 Pillars together and show you what pathway you should begin to choose so as to create the life you're wanting for yourself.
Till next time;
Stay strong, stay focused,
Here is to hoping that over the past week you have been giving some thought to your goal setting.
Over the next few weeks I am going to unpack what each of the pillars are.
Let’s begin with Health - of all 5 this is the most self-explanatory. What choices are you going to begin making today that will benefit your health? It may be too loose weight; exercise more; stop smoking or drinking to suggest some examples.
It does not matter where you are at this moment in time with your health, the goal is to be in a healthier place by the end of the year.
I want to share what I mean by family next with you - Family is NOT necessarily your actual family, (it may be but is not limited to) rather family is every person whom you allow into your inner circle. It is those people who really are important to you and you choose to be close to rather than feel obliged to be close to.
When you have the right people in your circle, you will find that the environment you are in will become a far more positive and energising one.
Next week I will unpack the others and then explain how to bring them all together to create that which you deserve.
Till next time;
Stay strong, stay focused,
Well hello 2015!
I trust that you have all had a well-deserved break and that your batteries have been fully charged for the year ahead. (those in the tourist/hospitality industry - I know...)
One of the most common things we do at this time of the year is to put our New Year’s resolutions into practise.
It's also a known fact that we often fail at maintaining them, after all some of the hardest but most life changing times in our lives often occur when we are working towards something and don't see immediate progress. Our true growth is when we work through this rather than fall into the trap of giving up.
Our lives are divided into what I refer to as the 5 pillars, they are
Health;
Finances;
Career;
Family and Spirituality.
You need to set goals that are achievable but that also push your boundaries and growth shall occur.
Next time I will break down and define what each of the 5 pillars really means.
Till next time;
Stay strong, stay focused,
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